So it really doesn’t take much brains to figure out which of those options requires more balls. No, they are brave enough to be themselves despite knowing that doing so will most definitely expose them to judgement and ridicule from other people. The funny thing here is that many of the feminine guys that many of you ‘straight-acting’ men like to make fun of are actually a lot more manlier than you are! For starters, they don’t try to hide their sexuality by adopting conventionally masculine mannerisms in a bid to act straight. Instead of uniting together to show our strength and solidarity, we further divide ourselves into arbitrary groups and try our best to distance ourselves from the subsets that we deem to be inferior to us. The irony here of course is that on one hand, gay men demand that society accept them for who they are and yet, we can’t even seem to accept each other.
In fact, the hatred for feminine guys have become so strong in some gay men that they absolutely refuse to chat to anyone that they deem to be a sissy: Source: / ‘Straight-acting’ gay men who pride themselves on their masculinity and who look down on feminine guys are a dime a dozen. If you’ve answered yes to all of the above questions, you’re definitely not the only one. But its enough of us that it’s a problem and the problem will never get solved if it is not talked about.Do feminine guys embarrass you? Source: ĭo you pride yourself on being ‘straight-acting’? Source: Yes, there are Black men out there who are genuine kind and thoughtful. But let us Black men be on the receiving end of it from Black women and suddenly its about hurt feelings When someone comes to us, making a point to defend a member of the oppressing group while we are speaking about the things they have collectively done to harm us, we get angry and rightfully so. We sound like every white person in general who gets in their feelings when one of us speaks about racism. I mean, do we not hear ourselves? Do we not hear who we sound like? We sound like every white liberal when someone speaks on police brutality. It doesn’t help that I see this same sentiment echoed by women I follow on instagram, mostly strippers and bartenders.Ĭ: One thing I will never understand is how my fellow black men can hear black women speak on the grievous wrongs that we’ve done to them and the only words they can think of is “Not all black men”. Even though I’ve been told I was dateable I feel like no one could possibly want me because I’m not uber masculine physically (short, chubby, small dick) or with my interests. My mom has always been a lot more understanding being my mom and all, but with my sisters they’ve always had a kind of “what’s the point of you being a man and existing if you can’t do anything and everything” attitude and that might be part of why I’m so insecure and angry towards women. I’m expected to be able to do and be everything regardless of the situation, basically be a paragon of masculinity, even though I’ve never been that masculine of a guy. And even though I’m the youngest (with two older sisters) just because I’m a male I’ve always been expected to be the strongest and be on top of it all the time. My dad wasn’t really around growing up since he and my mom divorced before I was born, making me the only male in the house. He stronger than most of us here.Ĭ: I see now how my relationship with my family encourages (and possibly led to) my misogynistic attitudes. and don’t even fix your mouth to say he’s weak, cuz he went public later, even though he KNEW y’all would call him weak for this. cuz he knew what would happen to him if he did. Like, if big ass Terry Crews doesn’t fight back, shouldn’t that tell you something about sexual assault and how it works on a psychological level? He’s TERRY CREWS! he could have flattened that dude. And don’t even get me started on how I see sistas joking about this and calling the man weak. Like, watching dudes I know talk about Terry just lets me know who’d make fun of me for being sexually harassed DAILY by a girl I knew in school. cuz you’ve got no clue what we’ve been through.Īnd also, can more of the brothas start talking about this? ESPECIALLY when the assailant is a woman? I feel like we don’t talk about this nearly enough.
Unless you’ve been in that situation before, don’t say a word. If he fought back, him being arrested and blacklisted (ie, never being able to provide for his family ever again) would be the BEST case scenario, worst case scenario, he gets shot by a cop.
Seriously, shut the fuck up about this “he should have fought back” nonsense. C: As a dude that’s been sexually assaulted, none of y’all say shit about Terry Crews.